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It's Not Always Easy to Bring Up
You've noticed something about how your child moves. Maybe they're not hitting a milestone on time. Maybe their walking looks different from other kids. Maybe you just have a feeling that something is off. You want to mention it to your pediatrician, but you're not sure how to bring it up without sounding like you're overreacting.
This hesitation is incredibly common. Many parents tell us they spent weeks or months worrying about a motor concern before finally bringing it up at an appointment, and some say they brought it up but felt dismissed. Let's make sure you're prepared to have this conversation effectively.
Before the Appointment: Prepare Your Observations
Pediatricians see your child for 15 to 20 minutes a few times a year. You see your child every day. Your observations are invaluable, but they're most useful when they're specific. Before your appointment, take a few minutes to write down what specifically concerns you. "She seems behind" is hard for a doctor to act on. "She's 8 months old and can't sit without support, and she only rolls to the right" gives them concrete information.
Note when you first noticed the concern, whether it's getting better, staying the same, or getting worse, what your child can do (their strengths, not just the gaps), any videos you've taken that show the movement pattern you're concerned about, and whether anyone else (daycare provider, grandparent, friend) has mentioned something similar.
Videos are particularly powerful. A 30-second clip of your child moving at home shows the pediatrician something they may not see during a brief office visit. Most pediatricians welcome video evidence and find it helpful.
During the Appointment: How to Frame the Conversation
There's no perfect script, but here are approaches that tend to work well:
Lead with specifics, not emotions. Instead of "I'm worried about her development," try "I've noticed she's not sitting independently at 9 months, and I'd like to understand if that's within the normal range or if we should look into it." Specific observations invite clinical discussion rather than reassurance.
Reference milestones. If you've been tracking milestones (through the CDC app, Pathways.org, or your own research), mention which specific milestones your child hasn't reached. "According to the CDC milestones, most babies are sitting independently by 9 months, and she's not there yet" gives your pediatrician a clear reference point.
Ask about screening tools. You can ask your pediatrician whether a standardized developmental screening would be appropriate. Tools like the Ages and Stages Questionnaire (ASQ) are quick, parent-completed screeners that can flag motor delays. If your pediatrician hasn't done one recently, requesting it is completely reasonable.
Name what you're asking for. Be direct about what you want. "I'd like a referral for a pediatric PT evaluation" is clearer than "do you think we should do something?" You're not being pushy. You're being an advocate for your child.
If Your Pediatrician Says "Wait and See"
This is the scenario many parents dread. You gather your courage, describe your concerns, and your doctor says "let's give it a few more months" or "they'll probably catch up." What do you do?
Ask clarifying questions. "What specifically should I watch for over the next few months?" and "At what point would you recommend an evaluation?" These questions turn a vague "wait and see" into a specific monitoring plan with clear triggers for action.
Ask about direct access. In most states, you can see a physical therapist without a physician referral through what's called "direct access." You may still need a prescription from your doctor for insurance to cover the visits, but you don't need the doctor's permission to schedule an evaluation. If your pediatrician is hesitant to refer, you can say "I understand your perspective, and I'd also like to get a PT's opinion. Can you write a prescription for a PT evaluation so my insurance will cover it?"
Set a specific follow-up date. If you agree to wait, make sure there's a clear timeline. "Let's check again in two months" is better than "let's see how things go." Mark the date on your calendar and hold to it.
Trust your gut. You know your child better than anyone. If your instinct tells you something needs attention, it's okay to pursue an evaluation even if your pediatrician isn't concerned. Getting an evaluation that comes back normal is never a negative outcome. It gives you peace of mind and potentially useful developmental tips.
If Your Pediatrician Agrees and Writes a Referral
Great. Here's what to do next. Ask if they're referring to a specific practice or if you can choose your own PT. Ask whether the referral includes a specific number of visits or is open-ended. Confirm that the prescription specifies "pediatric physical therapy evaluation and treatment" (this is the language insurers typically need). Ask your pediatrician to send any relevant medical records (growth charts, developmental screening results, specialist reports) to the PT practice.
Then call the PT practice to schedule as soon as possible. Waitlists can be long at some practices, and the sooner you call, the sooner your child can be seen.
What If You're Still Not Sure Whether to Bring It Up?
If you're on the fence about whether your concern is worth mentioning, bring it up anyway. Pediatricians would rather hear about a concern that turns out to be nothing than miss an early sign of a delay. There is no such thing as a silly question when it comes to your child's development.
Some parents find it helpful to start the conversation casually: "I wanted to ask about something I've been noticing..." This low-pressure opening makes it easier to share what you've been observing without feeling like you're making a dramatic announcement.
You Can Also Come Directly to a PT
While your pediatrician is an important partner in your child's care, they're not the only path to a PT evaluation. At Coral Care, families can reach out directly to get matched with a pediatric PT. We'll help you navigate insurance (which often requires a prescription from your doctor, which we can help you obtain) and schedule an evaluation quickly.
Whether you go through your pediatrician or come directly to us, the goal is the same: getting your child the right support at the right time. Get matched with a pediatric PT who can answer your questions and assess your child's motor development.


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